Tuesday, March 12, 2013

I can't let myself live in fear....(febrile seizure)

I can't let myself live in fear..

Last thrus was the worst day of my life. I woke up and followed our normal day schedule. I put monkey down for her nap at 2, I was going to wait a bit longer since the last week or so she was not falling asleep right away so I thought later might be better or that she is reaching an age where she might not always need a nap. When she does this I usually leave her in her crib to play or whatever for an hour or so for some quiet time at least.

Anyways around 2 I needed to change her and when I set her down on the change table she started rubbing her eyes. So I thought okay she must be actually tired so I might as well try and give her a nap now. I turned on the music and set her down and left the room. I didn't hear a peep out of her and at 4:30pm I realized wow she must really have needed a nap but being a mommy I started to worry and decided I needed to check on her. Even if she was still sleeping it might not be a bad idea to wake her up. Usually she would if I came into the room anyways because she might not go to sleep at 8pm easy. I stopped to use the washroom before I did so. The bathroom is right beside her bedroom. While I was in there she started crying. I was like well perfect timing on my part but I was also like crap she must have had a bad dream. That always makes me sad since I want her to wake up happy. I went into her room and she was laying on her left side. It looked like she was trying to push herself up in a sitting position but was having a hard time. I immediately became alarmed but thought maybe she was just sleeping on her arm and woke up to it being asleep and that was what was freaking her out. I was talking to her soothingly and was attempting to try and help her but became even more alarmed with the way she was crying and the way she wasn't even acknowledging that I was there. I was like OMG is she having a seizure!? For a split second I didn't know weather I should pick her up or not but then said the hell wit hit and scooped her out of her crib. I hugged her to my chest and then ran to the back of the house towards the phone. I stood in our dining room freaking out crying saying, 'please don't do this to mommy!'. I was home alone with both girls and Chris was due to be home shortly. I stood there holding her thinking what do I do!? Do I call work to see what Chris thought but as soon as that thought entered my mind I threw it out because I knew something was not right. I sat down in the chair, monkey in my arms and dialed 911. They answered right away and she connected me to dispatch right away.

I told him I thought she was having a seizure and that she was jerking around and having trouble breathing. I just had this horrible sense of dread and I was so scared for her life. This I would never wish on anyone. I was trying to stay calm but it was hard. The operator was really good at keeping me somewhat calm though and was able to tell me just how close the ambulance was. I still had her in my arms and he said it was okay just keep her on her side and make sure she doesn't choke if she happens to vomit. He asked me if she was turning blue and more then a few times if she was breathing. He even had me hold the phone to her mouth so he could hear. He asked me as well if she had a fever and I was like no? all confused because she wasn't even sick so when I put her down I wouldn't have thought she might be running a temp or there was no indication that anything was wrong. But then I was thinking now that he mentioned it she was really freaking warm. Of course as well it was jammie day and she was in flannel jammies. Yep that's really great when you have a fever. He told me to take as much clothing off as I could to help the fever. He said they are almost there. He tried to keep me calm and when he knew they were outside my door he let me go. I don't even remember running with her in my arms and down the short flight of stairs to the front door. I don't know how I still held her in my arms and unlocked it so could hand her to the ambulance people. He rushed her to the ambulance and another ambulance person talked to me about what was going on. I had Chlobug as well but thankfully she was in her swing. I went to grab my sweater and jacket and scribbled a really short note to Chris. I rried to find my wallet and her health card. I was a complete scatter brain. I was trying to be as fast as I could but it was hard since the faster I tried to go the slower I was. I didn't even think of Chlobug's car seat I just grabbed her and a blanket and a snow suit thing that probably wouldn't have fit her. The ambulance guy was not sure how we were all going to go into the ambulance but then the other one asked me about the seat. I was like 'GENIUS!' He helped me by getting her in it while I went and wrote a bit longer of a note to Chris.  Rereading it afterwards I don't know how he made any sense out of it.He said he had to read it a few times before he understood what I meant! I also didn't spell seizure right either.

I finally locked the door and we went to the ambulance. A fire truck had also there. You know how they say to always wear clean underwear because they day you don't is the day you are in the hospital. Yeah that was me that day. I was wear really baggy pj's and felt really shitty looking but when it all came down to it all that mattered was Monkey!

I got into the back of the ambulance and talked with the guy back there who assured me that the way monkey was acting was normal and that each person is different on how they come out of it. He told me that his brother or brother in law or someone like that takes a really long time to come out of it after he has a seizure. He told me that she is running a temperature. It was so horrible to watch her. I kept brushing her hair back from her face and telling her over and over again that it was alright that she was alright and that mommy was here. I really did not like seeing her eyes rolling back in her head and how her arms were like clubs and rigid and how her hands were like clubs. ugh just typing that makes me remember how she was when she was still in the seizure. I remember just sitting there thinking this isn't happening please don't let this be happening!! She's not even two years old! The other two were strapping Chlobug onto the seat in the back with the seat belt. They showed me that she was in there very secure. Then we were on our way. I barely remember the drive, but thankfully it didn't take to long to get to the hospital but when your in an ambulance that makes sense.

So we all got out and they handed Chobug to me and we went in. They brought her to a cubby and there was like a million of them on her. They asked me questions, things like is there anyone in the family that has this happen to them or if its normal for her to be licking her bottom lip repetitively. All of these questions were freaking me out. I don't remember half of what they were saying. Thankfully Chlobug was quiet and not crying this whole time. She was so quiet that the doctor didn't even realize she was there until one of the nurses pointed her out. Monkey was still out of it. The poor thing I hope she never has to go through anything like that again and because she is so tiny they were unable to get the IV in her left hand and she pushed that needle in a few times and then moved it around before they went to her right hand and did the same. The finally got it in and ended up having to put a block in her hand so she wouldn't try and rip it out. She also had to put a splint thing on her arm for the same reason. Then they were getting blood but couldn't get it out of her arm so had to take it from her foot. They did have the heart monitor thing on her finger but had to put it on her toe because she wouldn't leave it alone. She still really wasn't coherent enough. The one nurse asked me if there was anyone I wanted to call and after stuttering something she directed me to the phone. It was like one of my nightmares that I sometimes have where I need to call Chris (its usually him because I can't find him or I really need to talk to him) and no matter how I dial I always screw up. It was like that. I dialed like three times and got nothing before I got frustrated and asked the nurse that happened to come by the desk. Well duh Kristina you need to hit a line before you dial 9 and then your number. But it was a digital screen so I didn't see the line buttons. Finally I got through and then he couldn't barely hear me! The nurse said she had problems with that phone earlier and to just use the other one behind the desk. So I did. finally he could hear me. I tried to tell him what happened and he said that he was gathering stuff and then would be on his way.

I could hear the doctor and the nurses conferring and they were really concerned that she was not out of it yet or something that really freaked me out but you know how they talk in front of you but you don't really know exactly what is going on because they don't explain things to you. When I got back they were putting a drip into the iv line that was anti seizure medicine which freaked me out even more. I think they might have said to stop it. I took it at that time to mean that she was still in a seizure and they wanted to stop it. But now that I think back that she probably meant so it doesn't happen again.

Chris finally got there and then it was a waiting game. I have to say that I have never been more happy that I was still nursing Chlobug then I was that day. I almost stopped nursing her when she was 2 months old and I am SO glad that I was so stubborn and didn't give up because we didn't have to worry about bottles etc. It was really awkward to nurse her in the chair but since her head is pretty strong it wasn't that bad.

Around 7:45pm we started talking about what we were going to do for the night. We both couldn't stay up with Monkey. She wasn't getting any sleep that's for sure. First she had all these crappy things attached to her, she was constantly trying to pull stuff off and then getting really frustrated when she wasn't allowed. Poor little girl she didn't understand what they were doing to her and why. She had fallen asleep when they gave her that anti seizure medicine and it was after that that Chris got there so he never seen her the way I did before hand. When she woke up she was more aware of her surroundings and that I was there or that the doctor was checking her etc. She probably was so confused though but I don't blame her at all. It broke my heart to see her that way. I would have stayed with her if I could but since I needed to feed Chlobug, Chris and I decided that he would stay and I would go home with Chlobug and get some sleep and then come back in the morning.

The pediatrician that was on at the time came back and told us that every thing that they had done so far was coming back clear. They had taken her for a cat scan and there were no tumours or swelling in her brain, the blood tests came back fine and whatever else they did. She said because of that unfortunately they needed to test her spinal fluid so she would have to do a lumbar (test) thing. She came back awhile later to preform this. And again of course two nurses were holding Monkey down on the bed with blankets etc covering her to help hold in in place. She the doctor had got the tube or needle or whatever into her spin but was unable to get samples so they had to sit Monkey up and hold her again while she redid it!! Chris had to hold her head down so she was looking down to the ground. MY poor freaking baby!! She screamed!! I hate that she had to go through this! The fluid after getting a little bit she showed us was very clear, she said if there was an infection or whatever it would have been cloudy so while it was good that it was clear it still worried me about WHY this happened in the first place! They were still giving her Tylenol to bring down her temp a few times.

So I'm not sure exactly when everything happened this might have been at a time when mom was already on her way here. Because I had to nurse Chlobug and I was going home I really didn't want to be at the house by myself. I just couldn't handle it. The stupid cell barely had a signal but I was able to get through to mom and told her what happened. I wasn't sure if she was going to be able to come up since she usually watched my brothers boys after school and has done so since my sister in law has been in the hospital. I asked if Tammy was working the next day because she could possibly get them from school instead. I was like don't worry if you can't but mom was like no no that isn't a problem I just need to figure out how to make it work. I was SO relieved but I wasn't going to insist that she come up if she couldn't. I really didn't like the fact that it was basically 8pm and dark out already and it takes about an hour or so for her to get here. She told me she would call me back after she talked to my sister.

So she called back and I said I wasn't sure where I would be ( I  think this did happen before the spinal fluid thing) since I didn't want to leave the hospital until that was done. She said that she would call when she got here. So I figured that at 90 mins I would have to make sure that our phone was getting a signal so she could get through. It kept losing the signal. So then after the doctor did what she did we tried to get monkey to sleep but it wasn't working. It was so tiring! Chris said that if he was staying the night he needed to go home and get some food and grab some stuff and then he would come back and we could leave. I was nervous about staying by myself with the two kids since there was no way I could keep Monkey from pulling stuff out of her arm or falling off the bed! and also having to nurse Chlobug if she needed to be fed.
Of course the stupid phone was having a hard time when it came time to watch for moms call. When it finally found a bar there was a missed message and mom said she was now here at McDonald's by our house. She was like I'm not sure where you are and I can't even tell you my cell number to call me back. I didn't have it in the phone either for some stupid reason. I don't know if I was able to call the last call that I missed though. Our phone is not a smart phone lol.

So I called my sister and she was like I don't have moms cell. She said she was going to get it but mom never has it on anyways so she never bother. She was like I guess I should get it now though. She also told me that Jonathon did the same thing to her! That she experienced this as well. I was like what! Really? It made me feel a bit better but at this time I still didn't know what the hell was going on. She suggested that I call JP and that he might have mom's cell. I'm like idiot to myself he does live in moms basement so even if he didn't have her number she must have it written down somewhere. So then I call and talk to him for a few minutes. He said that she had just called home asking him to find her phone book to get my phone number or something. This was all so confusing since I just got the phone message from her but I take it that she didn't have my number when she got here so she called JP to get it and it took him a bit to find it and then she called me. But I missed the call because the phone wasn't getting a signal. Anyways he gave me her cell number to call her. He ALSO told me that John (his son) did that to them as well! His was due to a chest infection or kidney infection or something. I was like wth!! I never knew that about either of them. Turns out mom never knew either lol not until it happened to Monkey.

I had already lost this really weird surreal feeling I was experiencing when we first got to the hospital when the cat scan came back okay. Since that meant it wasn't something like epilepsy or anything and hearing that two of my siblings had the same problem made me feel a bit better. Considering when we first got there they asked me a few times if there was a family history. I still didn't know what was going on though.

So I call mom and she was actually at the ER doors since she just decided to come to the hospital anyways. She said her cell had died after calling JP and then leaving that phone message but when I called her it must have charged enough for her to get my message. So she came in and stayed with me while Chris left and came back. It was so nice that she was there because she watch Chlobug for me while I concentrated on Monkey. Unfortunately before Chris got back they had to take blood sample again. God that was hard to go through again. Poor Monkey her freaking arm was already bruised from earlier! I think I finally had got her to calm down a bit as well. The arm split was so frustrating for her. She was like laying there and then she would all of a sudden scream and throw her arm around trying to get it off. You could hear the frustration in her scream. I felt so freaking bad. She continued to randomly do that since she had that stupid thing on her as well. Finally one of the nurses suggested putting a sock on her foot and that seemed to help a lot!

Chlobug this whole time was still a quiet little angel and as happy as can be. Mom kept saying over and over again what a good baby she was. Chris came back and me mom and Chlobug left. It was about 2am by this point. I really didn't know how I was going to sleep that night especially with Chris and monkey at the hospital still but I knew that at least Chris was there. The nurse was going to bring in another bed so that Chris could lay down as well beside her and hopefully both would get to sleep. I didn't see how that was going to happen since monkey does not sleep on her back. More her side or stomach. That is really hard to do when you have a stupid iv in your arm!

Me and mom walked back to the car. I hate our car it's so small it's really hard to get the seat into the base and Chlobug is not really light. But I finally got her in there and we got in and we left (Chris got a 24 hour parking pass which made everything so much easier smarty pants) I dropped mom off in front of the hospital since she parked her car at the meters there.

She followed me back to the house and we went to bed. Chris had brought up the mattresses for the bed upstairs and put them in monkeys room,  that way mom could shut the door and not have the cats bother her. I fed Chlobug and we went to bed. I had a hard time falling asleep but I finally managed. I got at least 3-4 hours of sleep. I got up again around 8 and started getting ready to go back.

Chris called and said that monkey didn't sleep at all last night but finally was sleeping and that another pediatrician (the same one that seen monkey after she was born actually) had been by and was telling him that he didn't think she was going to need to stay the next night. They were going to send us up to pediatrics but there was no room up there. As it was there was another little baby in the same ER area as us staying over night. They also were not going to do the EEG that the pedi ordered the night before. Chris told me not to rush back since monkey was sleeping but if  I could get him a few donuts on my way back lol.

I finally left the house around 9am. Mom said that she would stay at the house and watch Chlobug which made everything so much easier. By the time I got back unfortunately the pediatrician had already been there. Monkey was up looking so small in her hospital bed and Chris was feeding her the breakfast they brought. I think it was cheerios and milk , eggs and an English muffing or something like that and some apple juice. She seemed in good spirits although she looked super tired and still had the iv in her arm. Once she was done eating the battle of getting her to stay in bed and not rip her iv out began again plus she was super grumpy. She whined and cried when I wouldn't give her a piece of my muffin! But it was chocolate so yeah. Chris said that the pediatrician made him feel okay that she would be safe to go home and that one of his child that had 6 seizures when she was small.

At one point a nurse came in and told us that it was hospital policy that when it comes with a potential of a infection that could spread we have to be in quarantined. She said I know it's stupid considering you live with her and if she had one you would already have caught it but we need you to put these gowns on, gloves and face mask. I also thought it was stupid that we had already been there for like 12 hours! She said hopefully we can get it lifted since I think they think it is not that. So we had to wear these dumb things. I think they were thinking it could be menegitis since everything else was coming back clear but they really didn't think it was that since the spinal fluid was clear when the doctor took samples. This was all procedure though until they got the results back.
I eventually had to go back to the house to feed Chlobug again and hopefully make it back before the pediatrician came down again since I wanted to talk to him and had a million questions for him. Unfortunately he came while I was gone again so by the time I got back to the hospital, roughly an hour later, Monkey was being discharged. I guess the only thing he told Chris was to call his office on Monday morning for him to see us.
When I called  monday morning after worrying the whole weekend (especially around her nap time since that is when it happened) it sounded like he didnt really didn't need to see us but scheduled us in because I had a million questions. I think he also knew that I was really worried and since I hadn't talked to him directly he was more then happy to see us. He really is an amazing doctor. After our appointment he made me feel sooo much better. Basically he figured she had a febrile seizure and that is actually pretty common and normal, more so if there are close family members that experienced one. He told me that I was still going to worry and probably for a long time but he said that if it happens again if I needed to to just call 911 again.
I can't tell you how relieved I am to know that it is normal and common! But it does still freak me out that it happened for no reason? I didn't think she was sick or not herself before it happened and they didn't find a infection or anything! My sister said it was the same with my nephew and since this has happened mom has talked to a few people that had the same thing happen and more specifically they didn't know their child had a fever until after it happened. Febrile seizure's are brought on not by the fever itself but by the sudden raise in temperature. Treating a fever is no guarentee that it still would not happen. So friggen freaky especially since I had never heard about this before it happened to Monkey.
Febrile seizures also have less of a chance of happening again the older the child is. Since Monkey was almost 2 when she had her first one I think she only has 1 in 4 chance of having a second and from what I have read usually that happens within the first year. They also normally stop after age of 6 so only four more years or so to go of worry! I hope Chlobug doesn't do this to me to I don't know if I could handle that!
okay phew this is long. Thank you if you have read down this whole thing! lol :) I hope that it NEVER happens again!

Thursday, March 7, 2013

mommy belly...

I remember around this time last year I was very self conscious about my belly because I still looked pregnant and Monkey was just turning one! I felt so crappy about myself and was so depressed!
This time around after Chloe was born of course my belly is the same way. Sure I know that losing weight will help with that and so far that has been a struggle although since the beginning of Jan I have lost almost 10 pounds. I still have about 50 or more to go so of course I feel like it is slow going.

Anyways sometime I randomly found out that my stomach bulge was due to a diastis recti which is the splitting of the stomach muscles. I have a 2 finger gap at the widest part near my belly button. I do have a bulge that comes out when I lay down to check the gap but I don't know if that is just my stomach fat/skin or if it is a hernia. It doesn't hurt ever so I am not sure. I will be asking the doctor next time we see him for Chlobug's next appointment. I am so happy though to know that repairing that split will help me get my flat stomach back! No mummy belly for me! I am so glad that I came across this information though! You are supposed to strengthen those muscles first, close the gap and then you can go and do your stomach crunches etc. I would have just jumped into all exercises including crunches and wonder why it was not getting any better or possible worse! Even when I was at my lowest weight I still had a bit of a pouch and I know wonder if I did have a gap then as well? The hardest part is going to be not slouching anymore. I guess that can make it worse as well. I really can't wait to be able to do Pilate's or something like that again, hopefully soon.

Monday, March 4, 2013


Monkey to her sock monkey: "whats wrong?" and as she places the monkey on the edge of something she says "don't fall down" then he "falls". She makes him jump the floor. Then talks to him laying on the ground. I can't really make out what she is saying here though, but this is repeated over and over again in different places in the front room . lol.

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Monkey sayings

Monkey said two funny things so far today.

Chris was looking at the directions on the no name pancake box because he was going to make pancakes. He was leaning on the kitchen counter. Monkey comes in and says "mmm looks good" (it's a bright yellow box with big black letters lol)
Then she was over by the playpen that is next to the tv stand and was trying to get in between them to get her "vacuum". You know that thing that has the balls that pop when you push it around? I went over there and said 'No monkey not now can you go play with something else? (I had just put Chlo-bug in her swing for her nap since I just fed her and she fell asleep). She stopped and looked at me and said "Why not?" I was shocked since she answered me and was trying not to laugh since she just didn't say it, she said it in a deep voice "WHYYY noot!" haha so funny!

Then Chris and Monkey were playing in the front room and she discovered a small spider in her bumbo chair (which actually creeps me out since I hate spiders). She was watching it and at one point it got out and she couldn't find it anymore and said "where'd you go spider!"

I guess it might be hard to get across just how cute anything she says is now since anyone reading this can't really hear her say it. She has the cutest little voice!

Monday, February 11, 2013

baby well visit

We had Chlobug's baby well visit last thrus. She had to get her first needles and I was so nervous. I hated watching Monkey get them done and wasn't looking forward to getting Chlobug started. I have to say it is a pain in the butt dragging two kids anywhere in the middle of winter, especially when one is a toddler so you have to carry her as well. The stroller would have been a pain in the butt just to put Monkey in it for a few minutes. This was almost like when we took both of them to the furniture store! Not FUN at all since we were there so long and waiting for them to approve us buying a bedroom set. Mental note on that one - get a babysitter! Anyways,  my winter jacket still doesn't fit properly either so having to carry the baby car seat and a diaper bag with a jacket that doesn't do up really is annoying.

When we first got there we saw the nurse first who weighed and measured her. She even asked me if I was okay with getting the vaccinations which I thought was awesome. We have no problems with them since we think it is good for her to be vaccinated. There were two needles and the first dosage of that one medicine that a few years ago was not fully covered. We had to get her to drink that one though. Chris took care of that and held her during the needles. Monkey was happier then anything watching toopy and binoo on youtube. She didn't even glance around when Chlobug started crying due to her vaccinations lol. That actually was a relief since it might have been even more stressful for me. Chloe is a trooper she cried for a few minutes and that was it even though she had a needle in each leg poor thing. I had made some formula so Chris fed her some of that afterwards and she was content. Then the only thing I was nervous about was if she reacted in anyway to the shots (which she didn't thankfully). I also managed to get a few bottles of infant Tylenol which is nice since I didn't have to go out and purchase any. We didn't need to use any anyways which was good, but it is always nice to have some in the house just in case.

After that the Doctor came in to check her, listened to her lungs and heart. We talked about a few things that I was worried/curious about. Her hands and feet looking mottled from time to time and her eyelids turning red. He said that was nothing to worry about and just due to an immature system.

We also talked about depression and post partum depression at length. I felt stupid as shit mentioning it but I knew I needed to. I hate taking medicine though so I opted to see if it gets better before trying to take something for it. It never was always everyday but it gets annoying after awhile. I also  seemed to fear that something bad would happen in certain spots of the house (mostly near the stairs) and I would avoid those areas or be very cautious if I need to go near them. I also had fears of accidentally pouring hot water for tea on either of them when I am pouring some for myself. Or knocking a pot of boiling water on either of them. The stupid thing is any of what I mentioned above I would never do. It is not something I think about as I am doing it for example pouring myself tea. I wouldn't be holding Chlobug while I was doing that or have Monkey in the kitchen with me when I was doing that or boiling water on the stove for food. These fears are all happening during nursing Chlobug in the chair. It is so stupid and frustrating to sit there and worry about something that would never happen because I would never put either of them in that situation! My imagination is just picking the worst case scenario of what could happen at home and it gets frustrating because I sit there and worry about it!
Chlobug's next appointment is in 2 months (early April) so I will see how I am between that time to see if I need to try meds or talk to someone. It is surprising to me since that appointment I have had depression or things like that everyday. I never realized how often or whatever so I might give something a try. I sometimes am sitting on the couch nursing her and I feel nothing it sucks. Or I feel emty inside or angry or stressed about fixable stuff. UGH. At least the doctor was reassuring that this is pretty normal especially since I did just have a second baby.

So Saturday comes along when our nice new bedroom set is to be delivered. It is and they set it up. It is awesome I love it! I love how big it is, how nice it is and how comfy the mattress is!! I was so looking forward to sleeping in it as well. I was worried about bringing Chlobug to bed and nursing her due to a very brand new mattress and off gassing. We decided that I could still nurse lying down but watch TV to keep myself awake and return her to her cradle when I was done. Well then I walked into the bedroom and it stunk of new furniture/whatever it was painted with. This freaked me out and stressed me out. We argued a lot, I looked it up online and did not feel comfortable having Chlobug in there. We opened both windows wide open and circulated the air from the furnace and hoped that it would get rid of the smell. So we didn't sleep in our new bed yet :( She has been sleeping in the playpen and us on a mattress on the living room floor. I also placed vineger in the room and some baking soda to hopefully take the smell away. Today (mon) it still smells but not as bad I don't think.

Yesterday I had so many solutions going through my head like we would have to put Chlobug in Monkey's room and I would have to go get her and nurse her in the hallway or in the front room or we would have to lock the cats in the basement (which we did the last two nights and they spent the night banging on the door and meowing :( ) and leave our door open and have her cradle just outside our doorway in the hallway. I have no idea what we are going to do! I just want to sleep in our new bed DAMMIT!

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

hopefully not another nap resistor!

Little bug is actually napping in her swing! NAPPING IN HER SWING! I nursed her at around 11:20am to about 11:48am and then set her in her swing and turned it on so I could go make lunch for monkey and me. Took her a few minutes but she feel asleep! I am excited that maybe just maybe she will be way easier to get into a nap routine (when she is ready of course since I think she is still to young for one) and actually fall asleep easily by herself? I think it helps that her belly is full and she is a good nurser.
She did this yesterday as well after I fed her at 12:30 and slept in her swing while I played just dance 4 for almost an hour. She did wake up but the swing lulled her to sleep again and then at the end she did wake up and watch me.

Hopefully monkey doesn't wake her up with her loudness!!

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

no time to write anymore it seems...

I never seem to feel like or have time to sit down and journal anymore and it sucks. Things have been going okay I guess. It still is an adjustment with trying to juggle two kids especially when Chlobug wants to nurse or be held all the time. Mornings can be the worst since if Chlobug wants to eat and then monkey wakes at the same time I either have to listen to the baby scream while I hurry and get monkey dressed and fed or make monkey wait in the crib ( or out in the front room) until I feed Chlobug. I feel bad about making her wait but most times she really doesn't seem to mind hanging out in her crib. She usually has a few toys in there with her anyways. I don't know what will happen when she is out of the crib. I'm not sure when that will happen but probably soon except now I think we might get her a twin mattress since the mattress in the basement is to big to have in there with the crib. I think we should just get her a toddler bed but I'm not sure how Chris feels about that? We had talked about it before but who knows,  I have no idea what we are going to do. It's really hard right now to go out and look at anything together since it's cold out and I'm nursing plus it's more of a pain to try and juggle the two of them. I guess we could always just get someone to watch them but still. Bah we just have to sit down and figure it out.

I joined Weight Watchers online a few weeks ago.  I seem to have a lot of points but then I get extra because I am full time nursing. I have so far lost 2 pounds and I am on track to have lost at least another pound on my Friday weight in. I'm glad that I joined when I did because when I was trying to lose a week or so prior to that I kept screwing up. There are a lot of resources online that I like and I like it better then going into the stupid meetings which I found to be boring for the most part. Online is also cheaper then going to weekly meetings. They had a deal where you could join for free so that was even better. I would like to lose more then a pound a week but right now I am happy to have at least be losing!

I'm not sure how long I am going to continue to nurse. It's driving me insane. I finally stopped recording every time I nursed her and all her diapers and that has seemed to help a bit. Right now my one nipple is hurting and she struggles to latch right away sometimes. She twists her head down a lot after latching as well. I find it nice at night though since I try and feed her or dream feed her around 11 before we go to bed. Lately she has been sleeping to at least 4am then I just bring her into our bed and nurse her on one side until I wake up and then we switch sides. I was getting up and trying to nurse her and then putting her back in the cradle but it was sucking. I need my sleep and I get really angry in the middle of the night if I can't. I hate that I am that way and I know that is what babies do (eat constantly) but it really is hard to keep calm when I am so tired all the time. Our bed is sort of small to so even nursing in bed is not fun either. I am always sandwiched between her and Chris basically has to hold onto me so he doesn't fall off his side of the bed lol.  It kills my back and my legs are always aching when I wake up. I'm afraid to switch to bottle feeding though since I really don't know two things about it (ie how much to give her and how often). Nursing her to sleep is my fail safe and basically is how I get her to sleep so if she doesn't go to sleep when being bottle fed then what will I do? I have no idea what to do anymore.

Friday, January 11, 2013

night time feedings suck..

I feel amazingly awake today! Yesterday was another story though. The night before we were able to put Chlobug into her cradle without her waking up to much. She did stir a few times but giving her her pacifier and resting my hand on her chest she fell back into slumber easily. I thought sleeping at night was getting better because the few nights before she was like this. I thought adding the heart beat for white noise was what was helping and moving the night light into the bathroom. But I was wrong , terribly wrong.  The night before last, like I said, she went to bed easily and woke up around 3am to eat. Unfortunately she wouldn't stay asleep nor fall asleep in her cradle even though she only ate on one side and no matter how hard I tried to wake her up a bit so she would latch on the other side, she wouldn't wake up. But of course when I put her down she started crying.  After trying to get her to sleep for 30 minutes I finally had to get up and nurse her again and then the same thing happened. Eventually after almost 2 hours of this Chris got 2 oz of formula and tried again. Nope, she wasn't having any of that. Chris at this point was doing most of the trying because I was just soooo tired and angry that I wasn't going to be much help at all. Finally around 6am I was like just bring her to bed and I will nurse her laying down. So we finally got some sleep again but not really to much. All day I was cranky, tired and had no patience and to make matters worse every time I went to do something and set Chlobug down she would get cranky after 5 mins which just added to my frustration!

So being fed up and exhausted by the night before I just saved us all the hassle and brought her to bed with us when she woke up in the middle of the night and was able to sleep until 8 am. Although holding myself in that position really does a number on my back and my neck especially when I am on my right side for some reason. I really don't know what will happen when and if I decide to wean because I am still really considering that but for now we will see how it goes.

Monday, January 7, 2013

fun times of parenting

I feel really down today for some reason. Last night I fed the munchkin at about 20 to 11 and by 11:20 Chris and I were getting ready for bed. I hate night time now because it's always a struggle to get Chlobug to sleep. All I have to look forward to then is a few hours of sleep, sometimes 4 or 5 if I am lucky, before she gets me up to nurse her again and then it's another fight to get her back to sleep. Last night we decided to put on a cd that is a recorded sound of a real moms heart beat. I don't know if it was that or what but she went into the cradle without to much problem. I was shocked! She did wake me up about 2.5 hours later though which sucked but to my surprise she would only eat off one side. No matter what I did to get her to wake up a little bit or enough to latch on the other side she wouldn't. I finally gave up and decided that if she woke up then I would just have to get back up to feed her on the other side. I was able to set her down with no problems! It was amazing! She woke again around 6am and I just nursed her in bed while laying down. I find I can get a bit more rest that way but it really kills my back when I do it since I keep myself completely rigid so I don't move at all. I guess because I am afraid of squashing her or something. It beats having to drag myself out of bed to nurse her though. Our bed really isn't that big either so there really is no room to move.
Last night was just SO perfect since I got decent amount of sleep. I was also then able to nurse her in the chair at 7:30am and not have her screaming her head off while I try to get monkey up. I was able to dress monkey and fed her oatmeal and eat myself without Chlobug screaming. She then took a 3 hour nap and when she woke up she was content and just looked around for a while. It was so weird!

So my day started out perfect but it didn't stay that way unfortunately.  Not long after I got monkey dressed and was making her oatmeal in the kitchen my perfect day went to shit. I didn't hear monkey come into the kitchen and when I turned from pouring water into the oatmeal to get a spoon I bumped into her. She went flying down on her bum with this shocked look on her face. I was frozen with probably a look of horror on my face because I couldn't do anything to stop it it happened so quick. That wasn't even the worse part. After she landed on her butt she flew backwards and banged her head off the floor. I don't know if it was my face cringing or her shock and her hitting her head but she started screaming! I felt so horrid. I picked her up and consoled her until she calmed down. God I felt so horrible and couldn't stop saying sorry to her. So once she was calm I put her down got the rest of her breakfast ready then put her in her highchair. While I was pushing up the sleeves on her dress I hit the tray which I thought was locked into place. Turns out it wasn't and it went flying to the floor with a bang,  which made her scream again. I think the loud bang scared her so much that of course she started screaming again. So I picked her up again and tried to calm her down again. What a horrible horrible morning. She finally did calm down and ate her breakfast and all was well thankfully. Geeez!!

Ttoday since it was sort of warm in here I decided to put a onesie on her, which I was always to afraid to do with Monkey because her neck was so wobbly. Chlobug seems to have better head control and I am more confident so I put it on her, put her in her swing after I nursed her with a blanket under her and she was fine for a bit. Unfortunately eventually she started screaming so when I went to get her I discovered that she had a really bad poop that soaked the front of her. It was on the burp cloth on top of her and on her new fuzzy blanket. No wonder why she was screaming. when I picked her up she was soaked all the way up her back to. I was like seriously!! The ONE time I put her in a onesie and this is what happens. That is the way my luck rolls I guess. lol. It wasn't even one that snaps in the front it had to go over her head. There was just sooo MUCH poop! and everywhere as I discovered when I opened up her diaper. That wasn't fun trying to get the onesie off of her without getting poop everywhere! I just put her in warm jammies again since it was getting chilling in the great room again. 

What a DAY!!

Friday, January 4, 2013

Can I say 'I hate nursing' again?

It's so hard now to find time to journal which really sucks because I feel like so much has happened and I have forgotten to write it down.

Monkey during the holidays drank from the plastic orange shot glass Chris uses to give her some juice by herself for the first time. There wasn't to much left in it but we were both amazed that she was able to do it herself a bit. Although when he tried it again she ended up spilling a lot on her but it's a start. Shes been a pro at the sippy cup for along time now so it's abut time really but we will take it slow. She also surprised us last night when we were just finishing up supper. Chris had Chlobug in his arms while he was eating since she was crying and he asked me to get some pie for him. He spelled it out though 'can you get me some p-i-e please?', I was like okay but there isn't a lot left. We both did a double take when Monkey started saying iIwant some pie. Smartypants!

It was so nice to have Chris off for 1.5 weeks over Christmas. Near the end I was nursing Chlobug in bed in the morning to get some more rest and then we both slept in a couple of hours. I didn't have to worry about monkey since Chris was getting up with her. So it was nice to get some extra zzz's. I miss that, since I can't do that anymore because once monkey wakes up we all get up. We didn't go home for Christmas though which sucked but I was to nervous about having to drive there with Chlobug still only a few weeks old. Also being around so many people and having two suppers to go to etc was just to much for me. I was getting anxiety just thinking about it. Since I am nursing as well I just couldn't do it. I'm sure the stress would have killed my supply. It's sort of a good thing since it took  Monkey like 4 hours to open her presents. I don't think she yet understands the whole Christmas thing. So with a lot of coxing and help she finally opened all her gifts. Staying home was also good because it seemed like the baby was eating every hour. I think she probably was going through a growth spurt or something.

New years was the same, we just stayed home. I avoided watching anything new years related on TV so I wouldn't get depressed lol. I couldn't even have a drink at home since I am nursing.

Chlobug has been okay. She is nursing well aside from sometimes feeling like she is always hungry. This time around it is going better, since I am not afraid that she isn't getting enough. I am just finding that the constant nursing and holding her, that I have hardly any time for Monkey and it makes me really sad. I am probably going to be weaning Chlobug earlier then I did Monkey. Right now I am trying to get to 6 weeks and then maybe I will start. It is just to frustrating for me especially at night that I can't do anything since she just wants to eat all the time and always when I am trying to do something. It also takes a bit of time as well. I don't know I feel guilty though thinking about it. I would love to get to 3 months though but the night time feedings are hard. I guess I might try just bottle feeding her in the middle of the night instead? It's really hard to get her to go to sleep at night since like monkey, she always wakes up when we set her down in the cradle. Sometimes she does go to sleep but most of the time not and then after an hour or so of trying to get her to sleep I drag myself out of bed to nurse again. Then in the middle of the night it's the same thing she is dead asleep at the end of the nursing session but as soon as she is in that cradle she wakes up and cries forever. I really don't know if it will be any different with formula but at least then it won't take as long. I don't know what to do since I feel guilty thinking about it but seriously I want my body back I want to be able to go somewhere and not have to rush home in less then an hour. I have only went out once since I came home from the hospital and I went to Michael's craft store to get a few things.

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